[music| She Wolf: Shakira ]
Just read this.
And. No words. *fumes*
Excerpt: The poll of 1,000 adults found that 54 percent of women believe rape victims should be held accountable for their attack and women were more likely than men to blame victims, with those aged between 18 and 24 the most likely to judge, Daily Mail reported.
I mean, seriously? Seriously? D:
I can’t believe that there are people who think like this. Ah, humanity, you fail me yet again. :(
Although this does remind me of this conversation I once had with my uncle. We were watching a 70s Hindi movie starring Amitabh Bachchan and Zeenat Aman. The scene went thus: Zeenat was dressed in a skimpy outfit, and had come to the police station to lodge a complaint of an eve teasing against a man who had wolf-whistled at her.
Inspector Amitabh looks her up and down – most insolently – and says, ‘Madam, aap kya sochti hain, aap aise kapde pehnegi to log apko dekh ke seeti ke badle mandir ke ghanti bajayenge?’
[‘If you’re dressed the way you are, what did you expect? That people would respect you and not whistle at you?’]
The dialogue is paraphrased, but the general gist is the same. If you wear something that the other party considers ‘revealing’ or ‘sexually attractive’, you have left yourself open to these kinds of remarks, looks, actions – whatever. It isn’t the fault of the perpetrator, because hey, you’re the one who wore the clothes, did what you did, looked in his direction and just generally existed in the same time and space as him. Which is, of course, reason enough.
I felt the same outrage at that moment that I do now, and what was most shocking – for me – was that my uncle didn’t really find anything wrong in what Amitabh’s character said.
His contention was that Aman’s character should have worn clothes according to the situation and the place. And of course if she were to be walking down the main road in a place like Mumbai in a skimpy costume, she would be open to be whistled at. If she would have worn such clothes in a pub/club/disco where people are used to seeing such clothes – and the kind of people who visit those places would not be the type to whistle/molest a woman wearing such clothes – it would have been fine, according to him, but not on the main road. So it is technically her fault that this happened.
Which is bullshit, said I.
I tried to tell him that it doesn’t matter what a woman does/wears, if something is done without her consent – and absence of denial does NOT imply consent – it should still be charged as a crime. And it is absolutely not her fault.
I remember a similar kind of thing on that game show hosted by that stupid Salman Khan a while back (‘Dus Ka Dum’) where he asks contestants questions based on a survey. The show does a survey and find out how many percentage of people do/think such a thing. The contestants have to guess the percentage, and the most accurate one wins.
So, one of the questions was, ‘What percentage of Indian men think a woman encourages eve teasers with the dresses she wears?’
And Khan goes on about how no one would tease/molest a woman who was walking ‘modestly’ down the street, but if she were to be ‘provocative’ then of course she’d be teased.
I got so angry I had to change the channel.
Who the f*ck is qualified to say what is provocative? There are people who might feel a woman completely swaddled from head to toe is provocative simply by the way she walks! Do they want all women to simply give up as a gender and sit at home to be ‘safe’?
And how dare anyone blame a victim for the crime perpetrated against them?
This kind of argument, I feel, is analogous to blaming a murder victim for his own murder. Because hey, he/she was born. They existed at the same time and place! Of course they’re at fault! [/sarcasm]
Ah, I need to go cool down now.
Thought I’d enter this contest, since this post was already all written up. Besides, any extra publicity this issue gets is always good.
Thus, according to contest rules I tag: Amul, Ag, and A-hem. Post, I say! :P