No Pigeonholing for me, thanks

The latest activity from BlogAdda seeks to celebrate the many facets of being a woman through the Gillette Venus #UseYourAnd activity – which is something right up my alley.

The activity asks us to blog about how we break stereotypes – and while I cannot claim to be groundbreaking – I can say that I am many contradictory things at once. It’s never been an ‘either/or’ situation with me – I like manga AND literary fiction AND graphic novels AND comics – I like anime AND Bollywood AND Telugu movies AND fantasy movies – I like doing DIY AND baking AND writing AND reading AND vegging out in front of the tv – I have a career AND I don’t mind being domestic – the list goes on.

I’ve never been able to bear strange ideas of feminism and ‘modern-ism’ whenever I hear them – people who say that a woman who prefers ethnic clothes isn’t modern, or that you can’t be domestic and do housework without being a traitor to the feminist ‘movement’.

To me, the idea of feminism is women being free to make their own choices – whether it be in their choice of dress or their idea of a good time. There are some women in the world who genuinely do not want careers, and are happy stay at home. And to them I say, more power to you. You can stay at home, not work, AND still be a feminist.

There are so many contradictory thoughts and ideas fighting for my mindspace that most of the time, I’m not very sure of my own stance on polarising topics.

To paraphrase an earlier post, I believe in rational explanations for all things, and science, and cold hard facts, but I also realise that faith is one of the strongest forces known to man.

I cannot condone, however, the fact that most faiths call to people to hold themselves separate from those who do not walk the same path, which almost always eventually leads to divisiveness and violence against the ‘others’. I still have faith in humanity, however, and I trust that some day we will finally get it right.

I do not think we should divide ourselves into cliques or groups based on what we wear, who we know, where we party, where we studied, what religion we follow, what party we vote for, and a myriad other things, but I also think there must be a clear distinction between those who would visit violence on others and those who would not.

I do not believe that violence is the way to solve conflicts, but sometimes the big stick is really more effective than the softly spoken words. And the ends justify the means, but who decides which is the ‘right’ reason for war or violence or a riot?

How come the people who call for war forget that a clash of ideologies or politics eventually ends up killing human beings—soldiers who leave behind grieving families?

In retrospect it seems that often I am never sure which side of the line I am on, or even who drew the line in the first place.

In the end, I find I am only one thing for certain: human.


This post is a part of #UseYourAnd activity at BlogAdda in association with Gillette Venus.

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